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Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Mommy Notes: My Terrible-No-Good-Very-Bad-Day


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Every one has them right? Those Terrible-No-Good-Very-Bad-Days. The days where for some reason everything just feels way too overwhelming. Please tell me I am not the only one that suffers from these beast of a day. I admit they are few and far between, but man when they rear their ugly heads they do it with vengeance. They mean business!

Last night it happened. I was talking to hubby on the phone and seriously the flood gates opened. I hadn't thought my day was bad. The kids were being kids, the house wasn't too tornado stricken, and we even had game night, but once the littles were tucked in and I started planning out things to do, I started to feel that overwhelming stress enshroud me.

Our swamp cooler needed cleaning, which is usually the hubbs job. I stay away from expensive machinery. It makes me nervous. I am always convinced it will break once I lay a finger on it. I was also researching how to add drop down tabs to the blog and was becoming confused with all the html code chat. It was a bit too much. Then Hubby called. Oh that sweet man of mine. Even though he is hours away, he knows when I need to hear his voice. I started to cry, not really knowing why I was crying. He of course told me crying wasn't playing fair. He considers it cheating (he can't stand to see/hear me cry). It basically breaks his tough man heart. Once I calmed down a bit, we started talking. I told him how I felt like I wasn't getting anything done I wanted to, how I didn't know if I wanted to keep blogging, how I didn't know how the heck I was going to clean that swamp cooler. I told him I didn't know what I was doing. After my cathartic release, things started to become clearer. Talking to my hubby tends to do that.

He summed it up pretty quickly for me with “Babe you're just having a bad day”. Simple, but absolutely true. Everyone has them. I started to think about how we are given trials to make us stronger. Since my hubby has left, I have been feeling great. I miss that man's face like something fierce, but I know this season we are in is going to give us a better future. He is training, so he can support and provide for this family of ours. I feel so blessed for everything we have been given. I have amazing sister-in-laws, who have been calling, visiting, sending prayers my way. They are amazing and I am thankful for them everyday. Last night was just one day, where things had gone a muck.

After talking to the Hubbs, and saying a few goodnight-I love yous, things were better. I was reminded that I could do hard things. I know that through Christ anything is possible. I know that I have a lot on my plate, but I know that all of these things (including blogging) are what my Heavenly Father wants me to be doing right now. I know I fall short, but I know that each day I can get a little bit closer to that person that God knows I can be.

Now I know you are going to ask...no I do not plan on stopping the blog. In fact I don't think I ever could. I know that this blog, sharing our story and how we live, has helped so many. I pray everyday that this blog will find those people that need help. I am so thankful for you lovelies that come here everyday. When I am down and not sure if anyone even reads this ole blog of mine, I receive some comment/email love from one of you lovely ladies and gents. You inspire me....always.

I am thankful for trials because they have shaped me into who I am. Had my hubby been able to find a job four years ago, we would have never learned how to live on a budget, and I would never have started this blog. The past four years have been a whirlwind, full of many trials, but it was through these trials that numerous blessings came to pass.

If you are struggling today, I pray for you. If you are feeling less than perfect, I pray for you. If you are looking for answers, I pray for you. I am in the same boat. I know that we can overcome hard things because we are daughters and sons of a king. He loves us and will carry us when we can no longer walk. He holds our hands when we can no longer see where to go.

Thank you for always being kind and loving. Sharing from the heart is a vulnerable thing, but I'm thankful for amazing readers who love and show kindness in all they do. You people rock!

P.S.
The A Way Back to You Giveaway Winner is Mel G!


XO Danielle

34 comments:

  1. Thanks Danielle, I really needed to read that this morning. I am not sure you know everything we went through in the past year, but we have come a long way. BUT to continue to struggle in some areas. I too know that with God all things are possible, but dang it, you have some days you just want to throw your hands up in the air and go cry in the shower.
    Although I may share crafts and recipes on my blog, for me it is more of a way to cope. Many days it is therapy to write out my feelings.
    I am thankful you were able to talk to your honey and he made you feel better. Hope you have a great Tuesday!

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  2. Danielle, yesterday was a bad day- today will be better! Thank you for this blog of yours girl... I found it one day when I was having a bad day- your tips, instructions and all of it really, have been a help to me. You are thought of today in NC as you go along and have yourself a very GOOD day :-)

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  3. Oh geez, you made me cry! Thank you for sharing your bad days along with the good. You and your sweet family are in my prayers always.

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  4. Yes you are right everyone has those overwhelming kind of days. They are definitely tough to get through sometimes. But know you are not alone. And your blog inspires a lot of people as well. Hope you have a better day today!

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  5. You have shared my day, husband away, trying to cope at home, things are good, but that overwhelming feeling gets me anxious big time..x

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  6. Hey Danielle,
    Just wanted you to know that I love your blog. In fact, after a computer crash & new pc- yours is the first blog I hunted down to re-bookmark. I love hearing about your family & ideas. Hang in there.
    hugs,
    Martha

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  7. I hope that you don't have too many more of those bad days! I know life never gets any easier the older you get, but it does get better. When we were young, we wanted to be older. And now that we're older, we find ourselves wishing we could go back to being young because life was more simple. Be grateful for what you have, enjoy life to the fullest, take the good with the bad, and remember that even the worst moments will pass!

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  8. Danielle, you are such an inspiration and so special. I hope this Tuesday is much, much better for you!

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  9. Sorry you've been feeling blue. Yes, we all have those days from time to time. Usually after a good cry & a good nights sleep the morning brings new perspectives & yesterday's problems aren't as overwhelming as we first thought. I work full time & babysit my 2 year old grandson nights & most weekends while his mom works. Whew, girlie it gets rough sometimes. I try to focus on his little smile & all he's learning & the memories we're making. It gives me a different perspective. That sink full of dishes, piles of dirty laundry & dust everywhere become so unimportant when I focus on the positive.
    Love your blog. I was raised being thrifty. You are a blessing Danielle. May God's sunshine smile on you today!!

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  10. I read your blog daily but don't comment. I want you to know that you inspire me through your ups and downs. You are in my prayers and your husband is right, it's a bad day, not a bad life. You are very very very blessed!

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  11. We all have bad days they're the worst especially the crying ones. But as horrible as they are without them we wouldn't appreciate those good days as much, right?!? Easy to say in hindsight I know : p XOXO

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  12. Thanks for sharing. I had one of those days last week

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  13. I'm so thankful that you will continue your blog. I read it every day and it's a joy and inspiration to me. We are going to the temple soon and one thing I'll be giving thanks for is you. I will also pray for you and your dear family to be provided all that you stand in need of.
    Love and Blessings, Barbara in Texas

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  14. Oh dear, hugs to you!! You are definitely not alone. I had a very similar day last Friday when everything was just too much! But I'm blessed with an amazing too who helped me to receive comfort and calm my fears :) Ask for a blessing, girl!! He never said it would be easy, He only said it would be worth it :)

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  15. Not that I want people to have these days, but it helps me feel normal. So thank you for sharing your feelings and secrets. I don't remember the last time we went out for pizza 'cuz now I make it from your recipes......along with many other recipes. You are an inspiration. I'm a mom of four littles, my hubby a seminary teacher, and we are doing all that we can to save so we can get out of debt. YOur blog has helped a ton! So, thank you! thank you! thank you! For taking time from your busy schedule to help others. I could not do what you do!

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  16. Danielle,
    When we were first married my hubby left for the police academy for four months. It seemed like an eternity at the time. That was 21 years ago and because of that job and my hard working hubby I have been blessed to be able to stay at home all of these years and raise two beautiful children. This Fall, both kids will be in college and in four short years, the hubby will be able to retire. Hang in there, because it all goes by so fast! You will look back and think of these times with fondness, I promise! XO

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  17. I absolutely looooooooooooooooooove your blog!!! You have soooo many good ideas!! We're following your 'Summer Camp at home' right now!!! Thanks a million for writing and sharing!! Love U tons!!
    Anapaula.

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  18. What a heartfelt post! I think every mom has been there. Once in a while you have to cut yourself some serious slack. You take care of so much on a daily basis. Sometimes a cleaning service is a great way to take one thing off your plate. One way or another, remember that you can do all things, like you said!

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  19. When I first came across your blog, (Thanks to Yahoo and The Today Show), I was so excited at how much we had in common! You inspired me, but I still have a long way to go to get to where you and your family are. My Hubby and I work during the day and take care of our Four Children and my Mother, the rest of the time, so I have not yet made time to get started on my plan (inspired by this blog). SOO...my point is, we all have those days. I totally know how you feel and just want to throw in the towel all the time! But then I remember that we are daughters of a King and our work is important.
    So Thank YOU for your inspiration! :)

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  20. Awww, you're entitled to a bad day. I had one of those and combated it with some good old-fashioned mac & cheese. Tears work too, as does the voice of your husband :0) As Mary Poppins always says, 'chin up'!

    http://www.fresh-eggs-daily.com/2012/06/terrible-horrible-no-good-really-bad.html
    Lisa
    Fresh Eggs Daily

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  21. Oh my...how I needed this today. Yesterday and today were my "bad days". Maybe it's been going on for week? That's how bad it has been. I am grateful for you, for your kind and inspiring words, and for your prayers. I wish the same for you and am happy that you have your hubby to "talk you down from the ledge".

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  22. Your post explained my exact thoughts yesterday. I truly love reading your blog and so appreciate your willingness to share yourself to others. As I get ready to loose my job tomorrow, I will be looking to your blog more because I will need all the help I can get. Please know though that you are appreciated.

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  23. Try a Terrible-No-Good-Very-Bad-Month! This was really encouraging, thank you! (So glad to hear you are staying around, love this blog!) :)

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  24. Try a Terrible-No-Good-Very-Bad-Month! This was really encouraging, and I am so glad your staying around-love this blog! :)

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  25. My husband does that for me too. I praise God for good partners. Not everyone has that in their partner.

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  26. This week I've had 3 Mondays in a row! It's crazy how that happens sometimes. My husband is also out of town for a while so I can feel your pain there. You are right that this is just a season and God sees the big picture. Rely on Him and give Him praise even on the bad days. Keep your head up.

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  27. This post sums up what goes down in phone calls with my hub when he is away on a tasking. It's amazing how they can just clarify what to us is such an emotional day. Thank God for blessing us with men who balance, comfort, encourage and love us.

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  28. Funny that was also my Tuesday! Too many things on my plate, except my husband is the one that loses it, not me so when I do he does not know what to do! Luckily it is rare! Glad to know I am not alone.

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  29. Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that you had a crummy day. They happen, and it's especially easy to get overwhelmed when you're the only adult in charge! Don't forget to take some time for yourself. Relax, maybe read a little bit, or do what makes you feel like YOU and not just a parent or a caretaker, you know? And don't forget to ask for help when things get rough- no job is too big when it's shared with friends and family. You're doing a great job. Don't be too hard on yourself!

    Thanks for all the inspiration! I love your blog. :)

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  30. Hey Danielle! I haven't visited in a while, but I have loved going through all your posts! I loved this one and I want to thank you so much for this blog -- I have gotten so many good ideas and tips for saving money! And since I am a fellow homeschooler I can especially appreciate that portion of your blog! You are doing an amazing job with your little family :) I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way!

    Jennifer
    http://dainty-posies.blogspot.com

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  31. ((hugs)) I'm with ya girl. I understand the blog thing too. My blog has suffered lately. I've had a bunch of family issues and the house sometimes closes in on me and gets overwhelming. It's obvious when I'm too stressed....everything appears chaotic. I know what the word says and God's truth that He will be with us. Sometimes it's hard to see past the clouds...especially when the bad days seem to come every other day. My prayers are with you and I'm glad you'll still blog. God bless!

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  32. Thanks for sharing candidly. Here is my blog post linking yours. Have a blessed day! http://heatherinfavoroffrugality.blogspot.com/

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  33. Thank you for your candid post. I linked yours in my recent post.http://heatherinfavoroffrugality.blogspot.com/

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